But Carolyn, the author never was an issue here. I reread the TEXT!!!! And I realized that I'd have to work very hard against the text to stay with my initial reading.

just like you have invoked logic and what guys do or don't do and what you think John would do but haven't actually addressed any of the quotes (and once we get into the sex I have many more where those come from) I provided. I'm arguing TEXT!!! not author...