I dunno. I sympathized with Rodney, some. The idea of becoming the non-custodial parent in a split--the baby would stay primarily with John because of the affinity--wouldn't appeal to me at all. I wouldn't go into that amicably and reasonably, I wouldn't be an adult about it. If my husband wanted me to move out and be a non-live-in parent of my baby daughter so he could comfortably have a relationship with someone else (and this isn't taking into account my relationship with him, this is about my relationship with my kids) I'd tell him to go to hell and/or over my dead body. Nobody separates me from my children, to even as nearby as next door. I was thinking Rodney was feeling similarly strongly about the idea.