And that's exactly what bothered me! How many parents are there, out there in the world, who aren't married to the parent of their child, where both parents are still involved with the child - plus the NEW SigOs of the parents also become involved in the child's upbringing? A lot; heck, I'm one of the few people I know of my age and younger who has only two parents, both original. (Well, one now, but death kind of gets in the way of some things.)
Two reasonably mature adults would have been able to come to some solution, and to me it would have been much more interesting if they HAD come to a solution. I was baffled by the fact that John's new girlfriend didn't even seem to interact with the kid at all - that in itself seemed way out of character, because he seemed to be deliberately avoiding having the two interact. Then the resolution of that plot thread - John abruptly dumps the girl - disturbed me, because there was no effort in finding a solution that would work for all concerned. (Why couldn't they just move into the quarters next door?) And the fact that John now CAN'T have a relationship - well, it leaves him with only Rodney as an option, and that felt like prison sex to me, like he was pretty much forced into the relationship. And the fact that John didn't seem to have any resentment about the whole situation just made me shake my head in disbelief. The whole thing smacked of a situation in which they should have seen Kate Heightmeyer in order to negotiate a reasonable answer for all concerned.
Also, Rodney insisting that John can't have another relationship because they have a *baby* - it made me think of all the teen mothers I knew growing up (and I knew a lot - I was the only female in my social group sophomore year of high school who didn't get pregnant and quit school) who got pregnant in order to keep their boyfriends tied to them. And that also really bothered me.
All in all, it felt like a very young view of the way relationships should work. Meh.
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Date: 2005-08-25 02:51 pm (UTC)Two reasonably mature adults would have been able to come to some solution, and to me it would have been much more interesting if they HAD come to a solution. I was baffled by the fact that John's new girlfriend didn't even seem to interact with the kid at all - that in itself seemed way out of character, because he seemed to be deliberately avoiding having the two interact. Then the resolution of that plot thread - John abruptly dumps the girl - disturbed me, because there was no effort in finding a solution that would work for all concerned. (Why couldn't they just move into the quarters next door?) And the fact that John now CAN'T have a relationship - well, it leaves him with only Rodney as an option, and that felt like prison sex to me, like he was pretty much forced into the relationship. And the fact that John didn't seem to have any resentment about the whole situation just made me shake my head in disbelief. The whole thing smacked of a situation in which they should have seen Kate Heightmeyer in order to negotiate a reasonable answer for all concerned.
Also, Rodney insisting that John can't have another relationship because they have a *baby* - it made me think of all the teen mothers I knew growing up (and I knew a lot - I was the only female in my social group sophomore year of high school who didn't get pregnant and quit school) who got pregnant in order to keep their boyfriends tied to them. And that also really bothered me.
All in all, it felt like a very young view of the way relationships should work. Meh.